- A Verse of Qur'an
- Preface
- Foreword
- Introduction
- Chapter One: Excellence Of Marriage
- Chapter two :When Must We Marry?
- Chapter Three :The Merits Of Timely A Marriage And Demerits Of Its Delay
- Chapter Four :Difficulties And Hurdles Of Marriage
- Chapter Five:Criteria of Spouse Selection
- Whom May We Select As A Spouse?
- Criteria Of Spouse Selection
- Criteria Of Spouse Selection
- First: Religiousness(From The Fundamental And Inevitable Factors)
- Second: Morality(A Basic And Positive Specification For Both Parties)
- Third: Nobility Of The Family
- Fourth: Reason (Basic Condition For Both Parties)
- Fifth: Physical And Mental Health
- Sixth: Beauty
- Seventh: Knowledge And Education
- Eighth: Being Each Other’s Match (Equity And Proportionateness)
- Conditions Of Compatability
- explainment
- 1- Religious Compatability
- 2- Cultural And Mental Compatability
- 3- Moral Compatability
- 4- Educational Compatability
- 5- Physical Compatability
- 6- Equality Of Beauty
- 7- Equality In Age
- 8- Economical Equality
- 9- Family Equality
- 10- Political Consistency
- 11- Social Consistency
- 12- Psychological Consistency
- 13- Future Equality
- Discussing The Future Aims And Probable Changes Before Marriage
- Important Caution!
- Avoiding Negligence
- Love
- Chapter Six :Selection
- explainment
- Time To Act
- Perfect Recognition
- Ways of spouse selection
- First Way: Seeking Advice
- Second Way: Mediator And Introducer
- Third Way: Investigation
- Fourth Way: Sending A Messenger
- Fifth Way: Writing A Letter
- Sixth Way: Photograph
- Seventh Way: Direct Talk
- Eighth Way: Seeing Each Other
- Omenation(Looking For Good Augury)
- Fate!
- Crossing The Slippery Road!Complete Caution At Every Step
- Self-Sacrificial Marriages
- Remorse Before Marriage
- Family Marriages
- Children’s Engagement
- Chapter Seven :Engagement Period
- explainment
- The Need Of An Engagement Period
- The Benefits Of The Engagement Period And …
- explainment
- 1- The Enhancement Of Mutual Recognition And Understanding
- 2- Improvement And Training
- 3-Enhancement Of Love
- 4- Development Of Hope Regarding One’s Future Life
- 5- Laying The Foundation Of Independence In Future Life
- 6- Valuing Each Other’s Sentiments And Feelings
- 7-Gift Presenting
- 8- Writing Love Letters
- 9- Sincere Visits
- 10- Short Journeys
- 11- Participating In Spiritual Aggregations
- 12- Gaining Knowledge And Arts Regarding Organising
- A Worthy Essay In This Connection
- The Length Of The Engagement Period
- The Mishaps And Catastrophes During The Engagement Period
- Leave the Real Marriage For The Marriage Night
- endnote
YOUTH and SPOUSE SELECTION
A Verse of Qur'an
بِِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِیمِ
﴿وَأَنکِحُوا الأَیَامَی مِنْکُمْ وَالصَّالِحِینَ مِنْ عِبَادِکُمْ وَإِمَائِکُمْ إِنْ یَکُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ یُغْنِهِمْ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِیمٌ﴾
IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, THE ALL-BENEFICENT, THE ALL-MERCIFUL
“Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of his grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and He knoweth all things. (24:32)”
Preface
By the translator
The contemporary world is a complicated one full of all sorts of problems. All over the globe, both in the developed and developing countries, different segments of the people face multi-dimensional problems: social, economical, ethical and spiritual. In pure statistical terms, it is particularly the youth strata, in societies everywhere that is most adversely affected. They compose of the frustrated, badly hit strata of the world’s masses, both in the East and the West.
If the East has its typical socio-economic problems, the West too is negatively affected by its own mechanised and industrialised form and metaphysical values.
Briefly, both the societies of West and East yearn and moan under the pressures of problems, either material or spiritual. In the East, socialism collapsed under the terrific pressures of social problems cropping up from its incapacious system. Right now, western capitalism too is showing cracks in its apparently magnificent frame.
At such a critical juncture, the youth of this world stands bewildered, perplexed and horrified, observing the cracking of this system.
The only question boiling in their inquisitive minds is where the remedy and cure lie.
And which system answers the burning